How To Develop Good Attributes Towards Any Goal

Success comes more easily to those who have a pleasing personality.  This is not to say that you should bend to everyone's wishes or scrape and bow.

 Rather, develop an attitude that is respectful of other's opinions but true to your own beliefs. Be flexible - don't be so rigid that you can't accept another person's opinion when it is superior to your own.

  Be willing, even eager, to learn from others. Changing your opinion in light of more facts is a sign of strength of character, not weakness.  Be willing to extend a helpful hand, be a team player.  Develop a sense of humor.

  Be polite and caring - but be your own person. Learn to guard against emotional responses.  You are susceptible to errors of judgement when you let your emotions get in the way. 

Of course, everything we do is done based somewhat on our emotions, but strong emotions have little place in decision making. 
Hold your emotions in check.  Try to delay decisions if you are in an emotional state. 

Learn to ignore your emotions and use reasoning to arrive at your decisions.

Develop the habit of enthusiasm.  Enthusiasm works like a magnet - it draws people and success.  

It's a pleasing personality trait that people like to be a part of.  It seems to be contagious - the people around you become enthusiastic, too, and become more cooperative. 
Enthusiasm sparks initiative and singleness of purpose. 

We've talked of working to develop habits - the habit of focusing on your goals, the habit of focusing on your strengths, the habit of learning and "researching," the habit of visualizing, the habit of enthusiasm. 

 Now we will talk of habits in a little different light - breaking them.  First, assess your habits looking for the ones that may be displeasing to others. Offensive habits can hold you back from success - they are often a part of an unpleasing personality.  

Look for things like grumbling or grunting at people instead of answering, gazing at anything but the speaker when conversing, smirking or sneering when you don't agree - anything that is an automatic, displeasing mannerism. 

 It will be very difficult to assess your habits accurately.  After all, a habit is something that we do without thinking much about it.  You will have to spend some time at this and be very conscious of yourself.  

Ask someone you trust to help you with this assessment.  It may take a lot of work to break yourself of displeasing habits.  

Try substituting a different, more pleasing behavior for the habit you wish to break. OK.  You have set definite goals, you have a definiteness of purpose, you have researched and know the specific steps to take to achieve the goals, you have resolved to be flexible and to develop a more pleasing personality. Have a wonderful day.