How To Develop Good Attributes Towards Any Goal

Success comes more easily to those who have a pleasing personality.  This is not to say that you should bend to everyone's wishes or scrape and bow.

 Rather, develop an attitude that is respectful of other's opinions but true to your own beliefs. Be flexible - don't be so rigid that you can't accept another person's opinion when it is superior to your own.

  Be willing, even eager, to learn from others. Changing your opinion in light of more facts is a sign of strength of character, not weakness.  Be willing to extend a helpful hand, be a team player.  Develop a sense of humor.

  Be polite and caring - but be your own person. Learn to guard against emotional responses.  You are susceptible to errors of judgement when you let your emotions get in the way. 

Of course, everything we do is done based somewhat on our emotions, but strong emotions have little place in decision making. 
Hold your emotions in check.  Try to delay decisions if you are in an emotional state. 

Learn to ignore your emotions and use reasoning to arrive at your decisions.

Develop the habit of enthusiasm.  Enthusiasm works like a magnet - it draws people and success.  

It's a pleasing personality trait that people like to be a part of.  It seems to be contagious - the people around you become enthusiastic, too, and become more cooperative. 
Enthusiasm sparks initiative and singleness of purpose. 

We've talked of working to develop habits - the habit of focusing on your goals, the habit of focusing on your strengths, the habit of learning and "researching," the habit of visualizing, the habit of enthusiasm. 

 Now we will talk of habits in a little different light - breaking them.  First, assess your habits looking for the ones that may be displeasing to others. Offensive habits can hold you back from success - they are often a part of an unpleasing personality.  

Look for things like grumbling or grunting at people instead of answering, gazing at anything but the speaker when conversing, smirking or sneering when you don't agree - anything that is an automatic, displeasing mannerism. 

 It will be very difficult to assess your habits accurately.  After all, a habit is something that we do without thinking much about it.  You will have to spend some time at this and be very conscious of yourself.  

Ask someone you trust to help you with this assessment.  It may take a lot of work to break yourself of displeasing habits.  

Try substituting a different, more pleasing behavior for the habit you wish to break. OK.  You have set definite goals, you have a definiteness of purpose, you have researched and know the specific steps to take to achieve the goals, you have resolved to be flexible and to develop a more pleasing personality. Have a wonderful day.

How To Beat Procrastination

The first step in beating procrastination is to admit to yourself how often you do it and assessing your methods ofdoing it. Not very difficult, really, when you become aware of the tactics some of us use to hide from ourselves what we are doing. The key in overcoming procrastination and becoming more efficient is organization.  Plan ahead. 

Know what you want to accomplish today, this week, and in the long haul. Make lists.  The lists for today will probably be more detailed than the longer-term lists. That's OK.  Now look over the lists and rank the tasks in order of importance.  Make three or four groupings based on importance.

Within each group, star the things you least like to do.

Each day you will have a "today" list to work on.  Tackle the tasks that are most important first. If you have several "most important" tasks on your list, take on the least liked things in that grouping before you do the better liked ones.   

When you have accomplished a task, check it off. You'll be surprised what a good feeling you have when you check things off. What a sense of accomplishment!  It's an incentive to do the next task on  the list. When you have completed the tasks in the first grouping, begin on the list of next importance. Again do the starred items in that group first.  Keep on checking things off as you get them done. Do you see what is happening?  You get the most pressing, least liked tasks out of the way early in the day when you are fresh and rested.
  As the day goes on you will feel less and less pressure. 
You have reserved the less important tasks  for the end of the day when you will be more tired.With this system you will have not only increased your efficiency but also reduced some of the stress in your day.  Stress can get in the way of efficiency. 

Your new efficiency will help you developyour potential. It is, in fact, a part of living up to your potential.

Another important part of efficiency is in delegating work.  If you are in a position where you have assistants or designated people under your supervision, you need to learn to delegate. If you are not in such a position yet, you still need to know - since you're working on developing your potential you very likely will be some day.

Delegating work is difficult for many people.  Some find it hard to ask others to do things for them - others find it hard not to demand that others do tasks.  Delegating is an art.

First, you need to realize that the people under your supervision are PEOPLE. 
Seldom, if ever, should you demand - that takes away self respect.
In order to achieve a happy and co-operative crew, you need to help them build self-respect and self-confidence. A happy and co-operative crew is an asset to you.  Demands do not promote self-respect and co-operation.

Oh, it's probably effective to demand in the short run - but in the long run you will be better off to gain co-operation without demanding.

People who are asked to do a task, are given explanations and clear instructions, and are praised for a job well done will grow in self-respect. 
They will also respect you as a good supervisor.  If you hesitate to ask for their assistance, your crew will feel that you do not trust them or have faith in their abilities. 
This affects their self-respect and, as a reaction, will affect their respect for you, as

well. When you delegate work, don't delegate just the "junk" tasks.  Your crew needs to be given some important tasks to do as well as unimportant ones.

The important task gives them a sense of the respect you have for them and the faith you have in their abilities.  It's a good idea to save some "junk" tasks for yourself. 

Perhaps the most respected and effective boss is the one about whom the crew says, "She never gives us anything to do that she wouldn't do herself."  
Why?  Because, by her actions the boss is saying that, though her position is above theirs, she is still just "plain people."

Delegation of tasks is important because you can gain in effectiveness and get more done if you properly supervise a crew. 
Don't feel embarrassed or hesitant about delegating work.  If it helps you to shine, it helps your crew shine, too.  A well-run, effective department is a credit to the whole team.

 With proper delegating, you can help your crew achieve their potential as well as achieving your own. All of us have untapped potential - perhaps even areas of genius - that we have neglected to develop.

 Whether your concept of success has to do with business, love, friendship, sports, a combination of these or something else, more fully developing your potential will help you achieve your

goals.  If you can learn to assess your potential, set realistic goals, and go after those goals with determination, organization, and purpose, you will use your potential more fully, gain confidence and be a happier and more successful person. Have a good time.